Getting ready to get married

Monday, February 16, 2009

I've finally decided that she's the girl I hope to spend the rest of my life with, how do I tell her?

I've been asked this question a few times already, that's just in a span of two months. My college buddies treat me as one of the boys and I get along well with male coworkers and churchmates too. Now they need my suggestions on how to make their proposals memorable, meaningful and special. "How did your boyfriend ask you?," caught me pointblank after the initial question.

Some years ago, on our second monthsary (if such a term exists) and having known each other for a decade, my boyfriend asked me to marry him. There were no grand gestures, no ring but not without surprises. He just stated it plainly, "WILL YOU MARRY ME?." It was written on a piece of paper (already disposed) using a black pen. We were brainstorming for my career plans that time. I was graduating from university.

Dumbfounded, I neither said yes nor no. I thought I was too young at that time to be contemplating on marriage, which all I knew was a complicated, till-death-do-us-part journey that many cynics have despised. Some believers however, share that it is also the best form of relationship ordained by God to man. I guess he assumed silence meant 'yes'. Quietly indeed, I was preparing myself for that dreaded path.

What does being engaged means? It means you have decided to go to the next level of your relationship; that you are going to pursue no other relationships with the opposite sex except the one you have highly favored; that you prepare yourself (in all aspects: emotional, social, intellectually, physically, financially and spiritually) for that day when you and that person with whom you've given your heart with will become one flesh in God's sight.

As for proposal ideas, a man is limited only by his creativity. Every person has a unique personality and different way of expressing his love. In my opinion, it does not matter how a man pops out the question but the sincerity of his promise. I didn't mind at all that he didn't do anything crazy for the proposal to be beautiful. I know he's pondered about it for a long time, prayed to God for guidance and asked his parents for their blessings. He asked me to give my heart to him and I did with little hesitation. Now I hope he takes good care of that fragile part of me that's already his'.

P.S. No violent reactions please. It's not going to be so soon... maybe a year or two from now.

Photo credit: here and here

26 comment(s):

chubskulit said...

I wish you and your fiance the best pchi!

joops said...

Don't forget to invite us Ms. Pchi!

joops said...

Don't forget to invite us Ms. Pchi!

GAGAY said...

whew! te pchi CONGRATS! and BEST WISHES toooo!


GAGAY said...

te pchi, i forgot, pede request?heheh! FLOWER GIRL ako?hahah!


joel said...

Congrats! Never was engaged, just jumped right in. That was 23 years ago and I'm still living the dream. I hope you the best.

Pastilan said...

Wow! you stated it clearly and beautifully. Invited kami sa kasal ha :)

As to proposals, i am not into preparing something grand like others do, like proposing in public, and things like that because it is like putting the girl in a difficult situation.

Nanaybelen said...

Congrat! pchi. wish you all the best.

Louie said...

I wish you all the best! :)

Umma said...

Wow.. glad to know that you are getting ready to plunge Pchi.. take your time, we know its not easy to enter into a married life soon..

But once you are spiritually prepared , I guess there's no denying the fact that you are indeed ready to enter another chapter of your life.

Cidy said...

wow! Wish all the best..nakakakilig naman...

Cidy said...

wow! wishing you all the best =) Nakakakilig naman =)

G said...

congratulation then :)

greetings from Jakarta Indonesia, happy blogging friend :)

Ron Centeno said...

All the best!Great Blog you have here.

bingkee said...

Congrats and I wish you all the blessings. Keep on hoping for the best and keep praying for guidance.

Anonymous said...

Congrats and wish you happy married life

chubskulit said...

visiting the bride to be... mwah!

RoNald said...

Oi congats pechay!wish you all the best.

Productive Pinoy said...


...yeah monthsary is a unique term that exist only in the Philippines =)

ROSILIE said...

eeeeeeeeeeeeeeeh! My sweet Pchi!You are indeed getting married na? My best wishes my friend! May love and happiness be always with you. If your guy is gonna hurt you, we will blog ill a lot about him.hahahhahahaha! take care always!
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pchi said...

@chubskulit, joops, gagay

thank you so much!

let's see. I hope we can invite you guys. help us pray in financial aspect of the preparation

pchi said...


I don't exactly understand the expression "living the dream"

does it mean "staying happy after all?"

thank you *bow*


yes, I think you are right. What if the girl isn't prepared to say 'yes'?
she'll have to consider the crowd gathered around them

but "special" does not necessarily mean having lots of people around

thank you Pasti


thanks for your wishes Kuya

pchi said...

@Nanay Belen

thank you po


Right. no need to hurry naman. we're preparing everything according to God's plan


thanks sis

pchi said...


thanks :)

@Ron Centeno

double thank you


thanks sis. I will follow your advice.

pchi said...


hopefully, we will
thank you for the greetings


ate naman, you're making me excited


thanks nald!

pchi said...

@Productive Pinoy

It just shows Filipinos are very romantic :)

thank you


thanks sis!
nah! yes, I think he will
and I will hurt him as well
pero let's not blog about it 'cause baka makarma naman tayo. hehe

thank you *mwah*

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